What's Coming up is Going Out

 

I want to chat with you about your emotions. Would you say you are an emotional person? I am massively raising my hand here! I am super emotional and I am fully embracing that. It is what makes me who I am. 

But I do have days where I am feeling more emotional than normal and it used to bother me. 

Turns out, it is a massive gift from the Universe. Let me explain more. 

Enter the phrase, what's coming up is going out! 

One of my most favorite manifestation mentors taught me this phrase and I've never forgotten it. 

Turns out when emotions are coming up to the surface, they are ready to be released. They recognize that you are in a good, healthy place and are no longer needed or serving you. 

That's something to celebrate! 

But I do understand that when you are in the moment and on the emotional roller coaster it can feel a tad unnerving. 

Like, what in the world is happening to me? Why am I super emotional today when nothing really got me upset or triggered me?! 

Or my favorite question. What's wrong with me? 

Nothing, babe. Nothing is wrong with you. You are magical and enough just as you are, and while you are going through this brief experience you are growing, transforming, and expanding.  You are actually RELEASING what no longer serves you. 

You are creating magic. 

It just feels like crap when you are in the moment. 

Here's what you can do the next time you have a super emotional day and you can't really explain why. 

1. Decide that you don't need to know "why" this is happening or "what it is about" Just allow it to happen. Say to yourself, I allow these feelings to come up to be released. Give yourself permission to not figure it all out. 

2. Give yourself a mental high five. The truth is, you've grown so much that your body can NOW recognize that it no longer needs to hold onto these feelings. It knows it is safe to let them go. You have expanded and up leveled so much that you don't need then anymore!!! 

3. Just feel those freaking feelings. Cry. Yell. Scream. Cry some more. Scream some more. GET IT OUT. Allow it to come. If you have to cry all day, do it.  That's ok. Your body will obviously stop crying when you are in that big zoom call or have to pick up your kids from school. Just allow it all to come out.

 

4. Release what is left. You have to physically move your body to get the rest of the emotion out. Whether it's going for a walk, run, yoga, deep vagal breathing, (my blog post on how to do this here) shaking your arms and legs for 10 minutes, EFT Tapping. JUST GET IT OUT. 

5. Once it's released and you feel more calm I suggest taking good care of yourself. Watch some mindless Netflix, take a bath, get a massage, paint your nails, drink some tea with honey. Something to calm yourself and take good care of yourself. You've earned it, babe. 

The more you do this, the easier it will become. I promise. 

This literally just happened to me on my birthday which was a few weeks ago. I just cried all day. I couldn't pin point what was making me so emotional. So I followed the steps above (and also had a glass of rosé mixed in there for good measure!) and I worked through it. 

While I did cry a massive river and I felt sad that my special day was taken over by such emotion, the truth of the matter is this was all coming up, to be released so that I didn't bring it into my next year of life. It's not needed where I am going. 

My up-level didn't need this emotion so it had to come out. 

When I started to view it like that, it suddenly felt like the greatest birthday gift I could ever receive. 

Thank you, Universe. Cheers! 

Let me know how this works out for you the next time you need it! 

Sending you so much love, 

Allison